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It is very important when divorcing to consider your long-term care needs. Divorce among those 50 and above has more than doubled since the 1990’s. This is particularly relevant if you are getting divorced and are over 50 or you and your soon to be ex spouse have purchased a long- term care policy, life [...]
Divorce is a loss. It is a death of a relationship, and there is a period of grieving. Psychiatrist, Elizabeth - Kugler - Ross describes the stages of grief as follows: Denial Anger Bargaining Depression Acceptance As a divorce attorney, with over thirty years’ experience, a certified near mediator, collaboratively trained attorney, and [...]
I love to dance. Listening and moving to the sound of music is edifying, soulful and connects me with my body. dancing with a partner, can be an intimate experience. I am not just referring to the sexual tension when dancing with another, I am referring to being in sync with someone, moving in [...]
Whenever I begin a mediation session, a collaborative divorce meeting, or a four way in a cooperative or litigated divorce, I recall the words of Saint Teresa of Calcutta. "If peace & love are not allowed to take their rightful place at the table of negotiation, then hatred and anger will produce conflict that will [...]
As I sat on the beach on a hot summer August day I began to think about why I have come to despise divorce litigation so much. Because of my many experiences with litigation for over 32 years, I am a big proponent of mediation and collaborative law. I felt calm and peaceful as I [...]
“Kindness and truth show me; Justice and peace shall kiss.” Psalm 85: 11 The definition of trust is a firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or faith in someone or something. It is reliance on integrity. It is difficult to have true peace and true justice without them as the Psalm perfectly says. Trust [...]
Why am I such an advocate of mediation and especially collaborative law? The answer is simple - I no longer want to be a part of the problem but rather part of the solution. What is the problem you may ask? Divorce litigation - it destroys families, finances, and children. Collaborative law understands that in [...]
I often read the psalms when I have a few moments to pray and reflect. When I read the lament of the psalmist in Psalm 120, verses 6 through 7, "Too long do I live among those who hate peace. When I speak of peace, they are for war." I felt as if he was [...]
Collaboration is defined as the action of working with someone to produce or create something. It takes cooperation- working together to achieve the same end. As a divorce litigator for over 33 years as well as a collaborative attorney, the main reason divorce becomes a litigation nightmare, (defined as a divorce of wasted energy, time, [...]
If anyone would ask me what separates a successful divorce and an unsuccessful one, I would say the ability to forgive. What I mean by successful is the divorce was just (each party got what was their due). There was not a devastation of their finances because of protracted litigation, and attorney fees. Most importantly [...]